Hey! How's your week going? Welcome to the third installment of our Breakthrough Bizness Planning Series (aka BBP). If you are joining us for the first time today, be sure to go back and check out installment #1 Insiders Secret to Business Breakthrough.
Last time we looked at the 6 key building blocks you need to create a profitable business that is aligned with your passions and purpose. Today its time to start blasting through self-doubt, negative self-talk and limiting beliefs and rocket yourself towards a superstar mindset! This is all about celebrating who you are and what you bring to the party. It's about believing in yourself and your work in the world.
If you know you've got some work to do in this area then great! We're going to point you in the right direction with tools for developing a 'magic mindset' that is going to get you where you want to be in life. Let's get started.
Take these 6 steps to start thinking like a Superstar!
#1 Foster self-awareness
How well do you really know yourself?
Are you a personal development junkie or do you run a mile at the mere thought of 'looking inwards' or 'getting in touch with your true self'?
We challenge you to take an honest look at yourself. Do you tend to AVOID your emotional (or other) issues and the actions you need to take to face up to them? If this sounds like you, then now is the time to be brave and change that behaviour pattern.
Why? Because if things are not going well for you right now or you are finding it difficult to take your business or life to the next level the answer may lie within you. So before you spend thousands of dollars or spend hours of your time making external changes to your life and business, it may pay to take some time out with yourself first. Use this time to look inwards (yes, scary for many people!)…..you may be surprised at what you discover!
(If this step resonates with you but you are not sure how to go about it, we have included some ideas in the free resources that go with this blog series so be sure to sign up!).
#2 Face up to lack of confidence or low self-esteem
Do you lack confidence or suffer from self-doubt or low self-esteem? Perhaps you find it difficult to believe in your ideas or your ability to make your business a success?
This is a common problem for women entrepreneurs, you are not alone! We regularly get this kind of feedback and research supports the finding that a lack of self-confidence is one of the main factors differentiating men and women when it comes to business. The important point here is not to beat yourself up about it (if you have low self-esteem or lack confidence you probably do enough of this already!)
Instead, choose to stand up for yourself and make a decision to do something about it. Yes, we all have doubts and fears. Yes, many of us lack confidence. What differentiates one person from another, however, is their response to it. You can choose to ignore your lack of confidence and it will impact on your life and business. You can choose to do something about it and experience the rewards.
#3 Identify the limiting beliefs that are holding you back
Right from the get-go we are given messages from the world around us about who we are and what we can or can't be, say or do. Some of these messages are loving and positive, others are negative and don't serve us well. These messages are also what we use to establish our comfort zone, that place where we feel safe, relaxed and secure. Our comfort zone (and our ability to step outside of it and challenge ourselves) is usually based on our previous experiences and what we think will happen next time. It is a type of mental conditioning (artifically created mental boundaries) or an internal state of mind that gives us a sense of security and helps us create order in our world.
Having a comfort zone is not a negative thing (it would be incredibly exhausting to be living outside our comfort zone all the time after all!) but it can impact on our lives and businesses if we spend too much time inside it. If you have a big exciting vision for your life and your business, it's highly likely that you will need to step outside your comfort zone and into your 'challenge' zone to achieve them. The problem is that often, those good ol' limiting beliefs we mentioned earlier raise their ugly heads, create fear and doubt and send us scuttling back to our comfort zone.
What are the limiting beliefs that you hold about yourself and your ability to succeed?
Are you aware of them and their potential for holding you back?
#3 Surround yourself with people who support you.
This step is crucial because it can have a big impact on your self-confidence as well as your ability to overcome limiting beliefs. In fact it's so important that we have written two other posts on it recently! Both posts include great ideas about how and why you should start focussing on the people who you surround yourself with. Rather than repeat ourselves, we've included the links here. Take a look and see what you think, but be sure to come back and read the rest of this post!
#4 Don't give in to negative self-talk
That little gremlin on your shoulder (aka the voice of self-doubt and fear) can say some awful things and get inside your head pretty bad. Your gremlin is doing its darndest to prove your limiting beliefs to be true, re-enforcing your fears and doubts and shouting them back at you via negative self-talk.
Remember, these limiting beliefs are not true – they are something you have learnt from someone or something else you have experienced along the way. All they do is keep you small. The cool thing is – if you have learnt these limiting beliefs, you can also unlearn them. Once you become aware of a limiting belief you can transfrom the negative self-talk it generates into a positive, empowering 'angel' on your shoulder with affirmations and positive self-talk. The trick to this is to catch yourself indulging in negative self-talk and replace it with a new , affirming thought pattern.
Have you ever even stopped for a moment to pay attention to your inner dialouge?
Does your gremlin overshadow the angel that should be on your shoulder?
This has such a massive impact on your life – if you haven't explored this before you must give it a try! Start today. Pay attention. Listen to yourself and see what you find (point #1 on self-awareness keeps coming up huh?).
#5 Stop apologising and start celebrating your gifts and achievements
In New Zealand we have a thing called 'tall poppy syndrome' defined as "a social phenomenon in which people of genuine merit are resented, attacked, cut down, or criticised because their talents or achievements elevate them above or distinguish them from their peers". This means that sometimes, we are socialised to hide our great talents or be embarassed by them rather than stand out from the crowd and take ownership for our gifts.
Do you shrug off compliments or hide your achievements because you don't want to be seen as 'arrogant' or 'too big for your boots'?
Do you say sorry several times a day, constantly apologising for your actions and who you are?
If it's a yes to these questions then its time to stop apologising for who you are and start taking ownership of and celebrating what you have achieved so far! As Marianne Williamson's famous quote says….
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.' We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you……
Start celebrating and taking ownership for the wonderful, talented, beautiful and precious women that you are. Today!
#6 Identify the mindset shift you need to create and get to work
Working through the 5 steps above will help you discover the mindset shift you need to create to bring about positive changes in your life and business. From there, you can start creating the shift you need using tools like meditation, affirmations, positive self-talk or whatever other self-development tools work best for you. If you are not sure how to go about this don't worry. Simply sign up for our free tools and resources below and we will point you in the right direction!
Thats our 6 steps. Where do you stand?
We'd love to hear how you feel about this post.
What is the biggest, most important mindset shift you need to make to create big change in your life and business?
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See you next time, when we'll be exploring the importance of having an inspiring vision for life and business (our favourite bit!)